Dating someone with family drama?

If you are asking these questions, you probably aren't prepared for the girls' family drama, (or the pressure of marriage and kids and house.) What you know is probably only a fraction of what is going on. You sound like a reasonable person with intelligence and common sense. If there are this many red flags for you, I would encourage you to back off of this relationship. She may be desperate to get out of a bad home life and think you are the ticket. If you choose to move forward with this, just be smart and be cautious. Good luck.